Gottman Method Couples Therapy in Edina & Minneapolis, MN
Even strong relationships can become stuck in patterns that leave both people feeling frustrated, defensive, or alone. Do you have the same argument over and over? Do you feel more like roommates than partners? Gottman-informed therapy might be the solution you’re looking for.
The Gottman Method gives couples practical, research-informed tools to help them communicate more effectively, rebuild trust, manage conflict, and create more moments of closeness in your everyday life.
MN Mental Health Consulting offers Gottman-informed couples therapy at our Edina office and through secure telehealth. Our therapists welcome married, unmarried couples, multicultural, interracial, and LGBTQ+ couples throughout Minnesota.
What Is the Gottman Method? How Does It Help Couples?
The Gottman Method is a structured approach to couples therapy developed by psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It draws from decades of research into the habits and interaction patterns associated with healthy, lasting relationships.
This method of therapy helps you and your partner develop a stronger friendship, communicate about difficult subjects, repair emotional injuries, express affection, and create a shared sense of purpose.
Gottman-informed therapy may help if you are experiencing:
- Frequent or recurring arguments
- Criticism, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown
- Difficulty listening without becoming overwhelmed
- Emotional distance or loneliness within the relationship
- A loss of affection, friendship, or intimacy
- Stress related to pregnancy, postpartum changes, infertility, or early parenthood
- Differences involving money, sex, family, religion, or household responsibilities
- Problems involving alcohol use or addiction within the family
- Infidelity, separation, divorce, or uncertainty about the relationship
You do not need to wait until your relationship is in crisis to begin couples therapy. Many couples benefit from therapy before getting married or becoming parents to discuss important topics before they become sources of conflict.
Can the Gottman Method Help After Infidelity?
Yes. Gottman-informed couples therapy can help you navigate difficult conversations following infidelity. It can also help you and your partner address the impact of the betrayal, establish accountability and boundaries, and gradually rebuild emotional and physical connection.
Seeking couples therapy does not require either person to promise that the relationship will continue. Therapy can help you understand what happened and make more thoughtful decisions about what comes next.
What Happens During Gottman Method Couples Therapy?
Gottman couples therapy usually begins with a detailed assessment of your relationship. Your therapist will ask questions to understand both the challenges bringing you to therapy and the strengths you already have as a couple.
After the assessment, your therapist will help you recognize your relationship’s strengths and areas that need attention. Together, you will identify goals for therapy.
Gottman-informed therapy is active and skills-focused. Your therapist will help you practice more helpful ways to have difficult conversations, listen and understand your partner, express your needs, take responsibility for your actions, and deepen your relationship.
Gottman-Informed Couples Therapy in Edina, Minneapolis, and Surrounding Areas
Our team of licensed therapists and mental health practitioners has extensive experience supporting couples with Gottman-informed couples therapy. We work with relationships of all shapes and sizes, including married, unmarried, multicultural, and LGBTQ+ couples. We can help you and your partner navigate communication and intimacy challenges, infidelity, ADHD, addiction-related concerns, parenting concerns, and much more.
In-person appointments are available at our office in Edina, MN. We serve couples throughout the Twin Cities, including Bloomington, Eden Prairie, Hopkins, Richfield, St. Louis Park, Minnetonka, Golden Valley, and Plymouth. Secure telehealth therapy is also available for couples throughout Minnesota.
Create A Relationship That Feels Supportive Again
Having a healthy relationship doesn’t mean you’ll never disagree. Learn to approach conflict with more respect and remain connected through difficult moments with MN Mental Health Consulting. Our Gottman-informed couples therapists can help.
Call or text (612) 203 2961 or schedule an appointment online.
Frequently Asked Questions About Gottman-Informed Couples Therapy
Is Gottman Therapy Only for Married Couples?
No. You do not have to be married, engaged, or living together to benefit from Gottman-informed therapy. Our therapists work with couples at every stage of a relationship. Your therapist will tailor your treatment to what’s most important to you.
Is the Gottman Method only for couples in serious conflict?
No. Some couples begin therapy because they are experiencing significant conflict, infidelity, or emotional distance. Others want to strengthen communication, prepare for marriage, adjust to parenthood, or prevent smaller concerns from becoming more serious.
Can Gottman therapy help couples with ADHD?
Yes. Gottman-informed therapy can help couples where one or both partners have ADHD. Your therapist will help you discuss these challenges and develop clearer expectations, routines, and repair strategies.
Do you offer lower-cost Gottman-informed couples therapy?
Low-cost relationship therapy may be available. Availability can vary, so contact MN Mental Health Consulting for current options.
How Is Gottman Therapy Different From EFT?
Both the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy are established approaches to couples counseling. The Gottman Method often focuses on changing communication behaviors, managing conflict, strengthening friendship, and creating shared meaning. EFT focuses more closely on attachment, vulnerable emotions, and the negative cycles that leave partners feeling disconnected or insecure.
Do both of us need to attend therapy for it to work?
Couples therapy generally works best when both partners participate. However, if your partner is unwilling to attend, individual therapy can still help you understand your needs, boundaries, and role in relationship patterns.
What if we don't know whether we want to stay together?
Couples therapy can help you clarify whether or not to end the relationship. Your therapist will not pressure you to make a specific decision, but will help you consider your options and which option is best for both of you.
Which insurances do you accept?
We are in-network with BlueCross BlueShield, Aetna, HealthPartners, Optum, UnitedHealth Group, United Healthcare, Ucare, Medicaid, PreferredOne, Hennepin Healthcare, Cigna, and South Country Health Alliance. However, insurance coverage can vary depending on the provider and plan. Please see our rates for more information.